Life Update. Am I Moving, Am I Not?


I was having a crappy day and next thing I knew, I put up a story talking about it on my Instagram. Not something I do often, or ever. Few hours later when I checked my direct messages on Instagram, I was swamped with texts from you guys. Some consoling, some heartwarming, and some resonating with the exact same crappy feeling. This made me realise that I’m always talking about/sharing my victories with you all but sometimes, maybe talking about my struggles as losses could help even one of you in some way. That – and all the questions I’ve been receiving on where Shailin is and why we aren’t together right now. You guys deserved an answer.

This is the current situation. Shailin works/lives in Belgium and here is what we had decided – I would come to Belgium right after our honeymoon (in March), settle my things and myself in my new part-home and then begin a journey of shuffling between India & Belgium so I could handle work and still get to be with my husband.

I would spend one month in Europe and then keep coming back to India for two weeks or so to execute my blogging projects and assignments. This was the plan for the first few years until we finally decided where we wanted to stay.
Legally how I would do this is – apply for a long stay visa (category D), so I could shuffle hassle-free between the two countries. This was the reason we had a court marriage last August (if you remember, from here). I started this process in August and after crazy amounts of documentation, was hoping for it to come through in January. It didn’t.

After our honeymoon, Shailin waited for a few weeks to see if my visa would finally come through and we could travel to kick-off this new beginning together. But it still didn’t. He had to take off without me. So much work had already been missed due to wedding planning, the wedding itself and then our honeymoon. I waited back in India.

Finally, I heard back on 5th April and my visa had been refused. The next few days were an absolute whirlwind and spent in nothing but panic mode. Was this a permanent refusal? What was the next step? A hundred other questions followed. Thankfully, it wasn’t a permanent no. There were ways we could try again. We figured out an alternative route and kickstarted paperwork for it. Officials said I could be with Shailin in less than two weeks. This wasn’t so bad, I thought to myself then. I get bonus time with my family and I could finish off some work while I was here too!
Unfortunately, since then, it’s been 2 months and 2 days and I still haven’t heard back.
Thankfully, I have work here in Mumbai to keep me busy and occupied but I miss him so much. You all know, we had been doing long distance for 5 years before our wedding and the most exciting part about getting married was to be able to FINALLY see each other EVERYDAY. He visited me a few weeks ago (remember this vlog?) but he was barely in the city for 2 and a half days and he had to get back to work.
Some days I wake up feeling motivated, happy to have the opportunities I do, to be surrounded by my family and friends who I love SO much, and work towards making the most of my time here. Some mornings I just feel so low because I feel like my whole life is currently at a standstill, just ‘waiting’ on a legal document to come in, not knowing when I would finally get to see him again.
I’ve decided to be strong and be positive. I know in my heart, this is happening for a reason, either for me to pick up a learning or to come out stronger. Believing, that our love will get me through this.
Either ways, it was time I responded to your hundred texts about where Shailin was and why we weren’t together. Can’t thank you enough for checking in : ) In some way, venting out my feelings has made me feel better today.
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  • Monali Mehta
    June 11, 2017

    This is the sweetest thing I have read today. Masoom, I have been following you for two years now and I need to say this – You are a strong individual with the best heart. Have faith. Be patient. Things will work out for the best ❤️

    • missstylefiesta
      June 11, 2017

      Thank you so much <3

      • Jalpari
        June 19, 2017

        Hey you are really very strong…don’t know how bt you are the ideal of my life…i love your dressing sence..nd most beautifull dress what confidence you have on your face i just love it?following you before some time…i just wanaaa be like you…hats of to you?

  • Cristina
    June 11, 2017

    Oh gosh…. i feel you totally :(. My bf is also in london, and i am in spain, and its been 3 years…its so hard some mornings u.u. I hope you get your papers soon and you get the happy together life you deserve <3

    • Laveena Nambiar
      June 11, 2017

      Hey Masoom, I started following you from your wedding posts and I know for a fact everyone spoke about the same in my friend circle or in office for that matter. We love the way you put each thing or message across in such a beautiful way.

      This above blog literally bought tears down but yes I know you motivate us and I am sure your family and friends motivate you too.

      You will surely get what you want and I am sure you would be with him soon ! Wishing you all the luck and success forever ??

      Have a great day !

    • Preety
      June 11, 2017

      Hang in there Mrs Masoom. There is always a reason behind delays. Am sure you visa will come in at the right time. Take care .

    • missstylefiesta
      June 11, 2017

      I totally agree – mornings are the hardest. I hope you guys can be together soon <3

  • Riya
    June 11, 2017

    I did long distance for 6 and a half years before we finally are together now. The thought of going back to long distance is scary. I totally understand how you feel but strength, positivity and hope will get you through. Hope the papers come through and all we be well.

  • Akshada
    June 11, 2017

    This is so good to read and relate to my own thing. Reading this makes me feel happy. You are really amazing, sharing your story makes me realise I am not the only one alone in this thing and there is always more good things to look up to.

    Bdw I want to work for you as your work is quite mesmerizing. Looking forward to it 🙂

    • Vaishali Sharma
      June 12, 2017

      Hi masoom! I’m following you from last 2 months when I saw a video of your sangeet and after watching and stalking all you instagram, i found it a fairytale how Shailoom is a perfect couple. You guys are goals. Long distance relationship isn’t everybody’s cup of tea but you’ve and still managing to be in it. Lots of love, stay strong. You’re amazing. Stay blessed❤️

  • Nimisha
    June 11, 2017

    That’s love my sweetheart…Will pray for shailoom to be ? next to each other every morning & evening…
    Till then keep urself bizi and keep posting ?

  • Priyanshi
    June 11, 2017

    I wish uh both come toghter soon nd enjoy ur married life happily ???
    Love uh

  • Vishakha
    June 11, 2017

    One of the most honest, transparent, straight from heart blogs I have read in a long time. I hope penning down your thoughts made you feel better. Hope for the best! I hope you’ll get a dorection soonest. Till then stay positive ? Love abd Luck

  • Shivani
    June 11, 2017

    No worries dear!! Just remember that God is always on your side and yeah the best is always yet to come just keep up the spirit and you know the best part is between all these messed up things you are keeping yourself buzy wid gr8 work and still motivating other bloggers and faishionists.

  • Meg
    June 11, 2017

    Hey you! Me and my husband(still feels weird to say that) did long distance for almost 7 years and finally got married this December. We all resonate with your pain and it will get better! Only brighter days to come from now onwards! We are both doctors and there are still 3-4 days in a row when we don’t see each other due to our night duties etc and it immediately sends us back into that feeling of despair thinking of those old days! Stay strong! It’s only going to be as amazing as you have always thought when you guys are together 🙂

  • Prerna
    June 11, 2017


  • Janhvi
    June 11, 2017

    You inspire me everyday(not even joking) . You are what i want to become. And reading this has just made me love and respect you more. I hope and pray for a very happy life to you two.

  • Tasmiya
    June 11, 2017

    Now i see there are many in queue waiting for the days to stay together 24×7. I can feel you masoom!! I am also in long distance relationship since last 7.5 years…our marriage is getting delayed for some or the other reasons…now hoping to tie knot next year inshallah.

  • Prerna
    June 11, 2017

    I met my boyfriend on social network 3 years ago and we had no friends in common too.We accidently bumped into each other.I know that’s not considered serious but we are totally in love.Within 3 days he proposed me.Not to be his gf but wife.We both were at our lowest point in life then in every aspect- financial,academics,career,family and social life.And since that day we have been working very hard, quietly in our own way to be with each other asap.I stay in Kolkata ,he is from Delhi.I know how you must be feeling.Its such a terrible feeling.I once broke down in a cafe just seeing a casual couple sitting and having a basic lunch.Its that heartbreaking.Just wanting the person’s presence.Also I have to hide everything at home.We have managed to meet only twice every year(2 days trips only) for past 3 years.There are times I just wanna catch a flight and be there.But then I have my studies to finish and he has office with very strict leave issues.We sometimes don’t get to talk for 3 days a strech and max. we have spoken ever in a day is 3hours a few times.But then, these times make me more sure of me wanting to be with him in future. You know the true value of the little things we might otherwise take for granted and that’s my biggest lesson.It makes us more strong as a couple.Loved reading it.Managing love and career life successfully like you is what I aspire to be.
    (P.S- planning to introduce him finally to my family next year on my 25th bday.Wish me luck 😀 )

  • Sakshi
    June 11, 2017

    You are a beautiful soul, this is the 1st time I’ve read your blog and it is soooo real. All the feelings, the excitement and the disappointments. Everyone is going through something and reading the fact that a pretty blogger is also having vulnerable days and just like all of us trying to work everyday to come out stronger is so humbling. Hope all will be well very soon for you. Stay strong love. And each one of you reading this, we’ll all come out of the other side stronger.

  • Sharmishtha
    June 11, 2017

    Hi masoom. Even i am in a long distance relationship. My bf is a sailor. I can completely relate to your situation. I just hope your paper work gets done soon and you shift to belgium with your husband. All the best .

  • Ishita
    June 11, 2017

    I can understand. .I did huge amount of paperwork and even did a course for a visa to Canada only to get rejected after waiting for a year.. these things might feel small when you are surrounded by friends and family who always there to love and support you and ofcourse a loving husband like Shailin??

  • Priya
    June 11, 2017

    Aww!! Hope u get all ur verification asap.. #shailoom ❤️ Masum ol d best ,ur strong person, stay like this.. keep vloging??? love u ????

    • missstylefiesta
      June 11, 2017

      Thank you 🙂

  • Manali
    June 11, 2017

    You are such a sweetheart. I love you. Be strong. I shall pray for you both. Everything will be fine soon :*

  • Alia
    June 11, 2017

    Wow. You are so strong ! I really hope the paperwork gets sorted and you can both work on your love story without any external setbacks.
    Thank you for putting your heart and energy into your work…you probably don’t realise how happy your images/ posts can make one person..imagination the accumulated joy you give us all.thank you!!fingers crossed for you.lots of love

  • Missiyer
    June 11, 2017

    I applaud your strength but I also applaud the person behind your strength, Shailin. He is lucky to have you and you are lucky to have him. Do cherish the little moments you spend as the distance now will make your love stronger. Much love. ??

  • Simran
    June 12, 2017

    I’m sure this wait will be fruitful for both of you….God bless….

  • Natasha Ambavle
    June 12, 2017

    This is why you are my favourite blogger! Very few bloggers deem their readers worthy enough to give them a glimpse of their personal life, just treating them as ‘Instagram accounts’ to increase followers. It was so nice of you to share your feelings. May God resolve all your problems and keep you happy always. Big hug!

  • Zamiya shaikh
    June 12, 2017

    My heart was aching when i read about your situation. Hope you get through it soon and go back to shailin with all the love ❤

  • Komal
    June 12, 2017

    Dear Masoom or shoud I say the fashionista….
    Sweet dear though I am much older to you and a late bloomer at social media ..all I have to say is you are absolutely beautiful inside and out and that’s what makes you soo very special. Have read all your blogs and vlogs and I have to say is your selfless and crazy LOVE for Shailin cannot make you stay away from him for long. As a new bride who always seeks and looks for husband for everything and anything in spite being able to do it all BUT that touch..that smile..those hints..those teases…only a newly married bride would know.
    I wish you all the luck and lots of love and can’t wait for your next blog where you are shouting from the roof that you will soon be with your love whenever YOU please.
    You will be in my prayers.

  • Iram Naaz
    June 15, 2017

    I Can feel the pain U goin through
    Even n struggling so hard To b with Mi Husband but noways its working out. just having faith on Almighty that one day we will be staying together with No visit visas And anxiety of going back to home country 🙂 God bless uh Too ….

  • Adrie Hurma
    June 19, 2017

    Hello from NYC !
    We are never aware what others are going through, especially those who encourage and motivate us through their own work. And it’s lovely that you’ve shared a piece of your heart with us. Everything is meant for a reason -you are correct. You got this! You can handle this, because your mentally capable. I love the work that you do, and how free spirited you are. This posts means everything to many of us.

  • Anshika agarwal
    June 25, 2017

    Hey masoom dont worry everthing will be alright!!!there is a proverb m”jo hota hai ache ke liye hota hai”just have faith in this..i noe it is hard to stay away from your love cz u guyz were waitng for this from last 5years!!!if u will be said then shanin wil be upst as wel cz he is also away from you!!so just have faith in god!!u guyz wil be togther soon?♥️

  • geetika
    July 5, 2017

    Dude are you 21???

  • PSingh
    January 2, 2018

    Hi Masoom! Could you please do a post on how you two managed long distance for five years? It is something that most of us are going through these days. Any advice would help. 🙂

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