Marriage, Moving countries & Other Things

How are you liking Belgium? I get this question atleast once a day, and if its a busy day, sometimes three times too.

When Shailin & I got engaged, we didn’t know where we would be living. It would be a mutual decision, but I was aware since years of dating Shailin that his work might command him to live majority of the year in Belgium, and since my work was not bound to geographical limits, it was definitely an option. Although, inside my heart, I hoped we would cohesively settle on India. I had an awesome work set up, physically and strategically, that I was extremely happy with, my entire family lived there, I saw my dad and my brother every day at work (we shared a space) and I had a small set of the most wonderful friends a girl could ask for. Moms hugs were a mere 15 minutes from where I would be living too. 

Couple of months before our wedding, it was decided it would be Belgium for majority of the year. I had been made prepared for this since years and yet I found myself being so so so upset. Shailin insisted this would be the best decision for ‘us’, that I was going to absolutely love it, that I could now take my work to an international level and I could always travel back every month to India if my work commanded it. I trusted him.

It’s been three months today since I came to Belgium and like every other newly married girl, I’m still finding my way around this new life. When someone would tell me how different it would be after marriage, oh boy, I did not even imagine this magnitude of difference. Every little thing is new. Every little thing makes me think of my parents. Every little thing is a big deal in my head.

I’m not sure I’m in a place right now to even categorically say how I’m feeling. Work, on one hand, has never ever been BETTER. I absolutely LOVE creating content in Europe, being exposed to a fresh new way of fashion, of talent, of influencing. I have so much more direction in my professional life. At the same time, I miss home, I miss my parents, my grandparents, my brother, my sisters, my best friends so much. But then again – every minute I spend living with Shailin feels like nothing could make me happier. Oh then again, how I miss my noisy Bombay and the traffic and the smell of jugaad. And yet, I’ve travelled more in the last 3 months than I have in the last 3 years. I guess it’s an ‘I don’t know’ phase and I’m beginning to accept that. Most importantly – I’ve decided to make the most of where I am, rather than wishing to be someplace else.

It’s the exciting start of a new journey and I can only hope that a year later he turns around and says – ‘Oh MM, I told you so’

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  • Krittika Sharma
    October 14, 2017

    You are doing great Masoom and more power to you. Its a saying that to achieve something in life , you have to sacrifice . I am really happy to see you making so beautiful content around europe and hope that you become the most successful international blogger way to go. All the best and Xoxo

  • Sakshi Minhas
    October 14, 2017

    It was wonderful to read this. I am getting married next year and we’ve taken a similar decision because my husband to be has his business set up in one place and mine can be handled virtually.
    It was beautiful to read this story. More power to you.
    And well, i am sure your followers have no complains as they get to see beautiful places and international fashion shows.
    Hope the “I told you so” comes true for you soon.

  • S. Ash
    October 14, 2017

    Honestly, you’ve refined your content so much ! You’re moving away from the mainstream Indian blogger aesthetic and I’m loving it ! No offence to some of the Indian bloggers on the scene, but all the content is the same. Everyone is promoting the same stuff everywhere. Authenticity of opinion seems to be lost. One of the main reasons why I used to enjoy reading blogger reviews over a critic’s is because of the honesty.

    Majority of posts are focused on some sort of promotion or product placement. But you seemed to have moved away from this ! I know promotions are a requirement of the job, but im loving the fresh way you’re presenting it ! I lived away from home for 5 years for uni, but it’s changed my perspective and mainly my way of thinking. This geographic change will bring in a personal change of a lifetime for you ! And it’s reflecting brilliantly in your content ! Xxxx

  • Mahima
    October 14, 2017

    Beautiful 😍😍😍😍

  • Ria Parikh
    October 14, 2017

    Your creativity in content production has been very inspirational! Very happy to see an Indian blogger execute such a beautiful European journey! More love to you ❤️

    https://riaparikh.wordpress.com

  • Pooja Bangera
    October 14, 2017

    It’s a brilliant way to accept the life and look for better things in every place. It gives lot of strength to get adapted to the new life and most importantly the person you love the most will be with you.
    All the luck to you MM.

  • Ankita
    October 14, 2017

    Hi Masoom,

    I am extremely attached to being home and the idea of moving terrifies me.

    You’re extremely good with your work and I believe you would continue to create great content where you are. Also I truly believe that being out there, travelling across Europe sharing a new life with your readers/followers, makes your blog more unique and fun to read. You create travel and fashion and couple goals at the same time.

    Good luck on your beautiful journey and I love what you said about making the most of where you are instead of thinking you should be some place else.

    Love,
    Ankita

  • Saloni Pareek
    October 14, 2017

    You use your heart for writing…..u r such an inspiration…..

  • Rutuja
    October 14, 2017

    Love your blogs masoom♡♡♡!!!!

  • Aishwarya
    October 15, 2017

    Masoom- You are really impressive!

  • Hana
    October 15, 2017

    Love reading your blogs, Masoom – your content is extremely refreshing!

    Only suggestion I would make is that you should hire a copy editor – there are lots of grammar and language errors in this post (which is totally fine, since you’re not a native English speaker). Getting a native English speaker to edit your posts would make a huge difference to the seamlessness of your writing and keep the reader engaged. You should hire me, haha! 😛

    Just wanted to share this tiny piece of advice – you’re awesome, lovely lady!

  • Dolly kataria
    October 23, 2017

    U r inspiration to many girls….love ur blog…always be happy and keep smiling

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